Do you resemble similar aspects to the closest 5 people you spend the most time with?
Let's assume that you are one of those individuals who believes that your physical health is important, you invest a lot of time in the gym, you strive to meet your goals and when you feel bad you go to the doctor, but you do not go to any doctor, if your knee hurts you do not go your physician, you know that to be able to solve the specific knee problem you must go to an orthopedic doctor... But... what do you do for your mental health? What do you do to keep your interior space clean, that one space you can’t run away from, and space that we should take the most care of?
"Healthy relationships enable us to be who we are," says Mary Jo Kreitzer, Ph.D., R.N., Director of the Center for Spirituality & Healing. She also continues by saying how "They nurture us, and they help us grow. They help us become better people.”
"We're the average of the 5 people we spent the most time with," thought attributed to Jim Rohan, American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker, have you ever heard this phrase before? I don't know why it refers to 5, I don't know why not 2, 4, or 6 people but I personally think that this phrase contains a great truth, and I could prove it... when I thought of the 5 people I relate most to I realized that I have a little of each of them, and if I think a little further back I realize that many skills, skills and why not, defects have also been acquired by getting used to relating to my average.
Once upon a time, a teacher told me that if I wanted to get to be an athletic person, you should hang out with a group of people who enjoy sports, it would not be easy to try to motivate us 5 people who hate to get out of bed and stay active. If you want to learn to do business, get involved with people who have done business before. You can observe, learn, and thus get involved in the world that attracts your attention. If you want your life not to be drama, avoid people who are constantly complaining, people avoid people who only see the half-empty side of the glass and inject yourself with the energy of people who see the world with eyes of enthusiasm. If you think about it, it’s easier than it looks, do you want to get to know yourself a little better? Analyze how your partner/partners have been or how they are, this will say a lot about you. You attract what you project and surely these people will one of those 5 people in which you relate the most.
The fun thing about this is that if you don't like those average 5 people, you can change it!! And choosing you to want to move on, for me, makes sense. Everything is understood thus far, but… you might ask what about our family? What about people close to us who for obvious reasons make up part of those individuals but who don't necessarily bring happiness or who instead of adding remain in our lives? In this case, I feel that it is time to implement a good strategy to make a change in our own lives, many times what bothers us the most or what makes us clashes with other people, is a reflection of what we should work on internally. If we want to change our environment especially family, let's start by changing ourselves, nothing teaches us more than our own example.
Let us seek to surround ourselves with people who contribute to us and seek to contribute to people. In my case, I love to meet people who know much more than I do, from which I can learn, those who practice their own beliefs and spirituality, those who work, those who continue to work on themselves personally, people who can shine without turning off the light of anyone else. Let us analyze and see how we can better ourselves together. Let’s be open to meeting and surround ourselves with those who lift us up and inspire us to be the best version we can be.
Now after reading this: write in a notebook or in your phone notes the 5 people who make your circle, and ask yourself ... are you happy with those 5 people that you surround yourself with?